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Is Fear Holding You Back?

By Melisa Alaba


When I think of the number one emotion that causes the most pain to the human body, fear is the first thing that pops up in my mind. Fear cripples people and causes them to go into paralysis, leaving a trail of sadness, unlived lives and hopelessness. I know for sure that you can conquer fear by living a life full of purpose. Each day, choose to stare fear down and take action. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best with this statement: “Do one thing every day that scares you.” Conquering fear does not mean that you will not get scared sometimes, but it does mean you will do it anyway.

Get started living your best life by following these five action steps today:

1.Dispel old beliefs; examine and challenge them. Many old beliefs stem from our childhood. Maybe you were told you should be quiet and not speak to adults in public. This belief may cause you to have challenges when asked to present a topic at work. Examine the belief by figuring out when it began and how it has played a role in your life. Then, dispel the belief with a statement such as, “I have a good voice and it should be heard by everyone. I no longer need to remain quiet.” Finally, challenge the belief by moving to Step 2 – speak to a gathering of people on a topic.

2. Just do it. Just like the famous Nike slogan. When you are passionate about something and you know it is the right thing to do, just do it. Start from where you are and soon you will build momentum.

3. Affirmations are vital to reprogramming our mind to see fear differently. Repeating affirmations will help you overcome old beliefs that you may have regarding a matter.

4. Repeat Step Three. Yes, that’s right, being consistent over time will yield massive results. Imagine being a restaurant reviewer. Each time you do a review, you will become better and better over time. In the book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell states that when we dedicate 10,000 hours to a craft we become an expert. Consistency is the key.

5.Educate and train yourself. When we take the time to study our craft, practice or understand how something works, we naturally become less fearful because of the knowledge that we have. For example, if speaking were an issue for you, joining and participating in a group such as Toastmasters would be a self-study that would help you hone your voice.

Lastly, remember that every day is an opportunity to grow and overcome our challenges. How will you overcome your fear today? Write me; I want to hear from you.

Wishing you the best,

Melisa Alaba